[pct-l] Obtaining a leave of absence (from marriage)

[Jeffrey Olson]

Now, how about similar perspectives on how a married person interested 
in long distance hiking tells his or her partner s/he wants to do a five 
month hike when s/he knows the partner has no interest in hiking that 
far, or hiking at all!!! 

Jeffrey Olson
Martin, SD

Erik The Black wrote:
> Here are a few tips that may help with negotiating a leave of absence with
> your boss:
>
> 1) Play out all of the possible outcomes in your head beforehand. What will
> you do if your request is denied? Are there concessions you can make to get
> them to yes? Are you willing to resign? Are you willing to bluff? What will
> you do if your bluff is called?
>
> 2) Talk mostly about what the company has to gain by granting your request,
> or what they have to lose if they deny it. Don't make it all about you. Make
> it about them.
>
> 3) Have a response prepared for every objection. Don't go in there on just a
> wing and a prayer. Here are some common objections to have answers for: 
>
> **The Brush Off**
>
> 	"But we really need you here right now. Can you put it off for
> another 	few years?" 
>
> **The Veiled Threat**
>
> 	"The economy is tough right now, many people are unemployed. Are you
> sure you want to give up your job?"
>
> **The Guilt Trip**
>
> 	"How can you do this to us right now? Haven't we always treated you
> well? Who will do your work while you are gone?"
>
> **The Ultimatum**
>
> 	"I'm sorry, but it's simply not possible at this time. It's beyond
> my 	control."
>
> 4) Keep it friendly and professional. Even if your request is denied and you
> have to resign, leave on good terms. Let them know that when you return you
> may be interested in working for them again, and that you will contact them
> at the appropriate time to inquire about their needs.
>
> 5) If your request is denied and you are not willing to resign try to get
> them to agree to a specific date in the future, like the following year. And
> hold them to it!
>
> You never want to leave the negotiation table without getting something,
> even if it's not exactly what you really wanted. If you walk out
> empty-handed you will have set a precedent and established yourself as
> someone who can be easily dismissed, and your future requests will carry
> less weight.
>
>
> Good luck!
>
>
> Erik The Black
> Author & Publisher
> Pacific Crest Trail Atlas
> www.pctatlas.com
>
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