[pct-l] Solo Female - Leaving Boyfriend At Home

[Kathi]

I am now married to the boyfriend who didn't/doesn't want to backpack 
with me. All the time we've been together he has know that is important 
to me and supported me in doing it. I have not thru-hiked the trail yet 
but I know he's going to be okay with it when I do. Will he be sad that 
I won't be around for a few months... I hope so!!! We will just keep 
in-touch as much as possible and I got a SPOT that I carry so he can 
track me. That has helped immensely because he was very worried for me 
being out there on my own. Now he can log-in to the website and see I am 
making forward progress. So either my SPOT is in a bear's stomach and 
they are moving or I am moving. :-P I just started section hiking last 
year because I don't see a thru happening anytime soon, I can tell you 
one thing A LOT gets done around the house while I'm gone. :-)

This may not be a popular opinion and is a bit more of "counseling 
speech" than trail talk, but I'll put it out there anyway. The real 
thing to consider with a boyfriend, or even a spouse... if they aren't 
going to support you in your dreams and you aren't going to support them 
in theirs, then is this really the person for you? If you are planning 
on one day marrying your boyfriend and he cannot handle this situation 
then perhaps this isn't the person to go through life with. Having a 
boyfriend/girlfriend is usually to discern who you want to go through 
your life with. Being wildly in love is not enough. Fun and exciting 
though. If your boyfriend wanted to fulfill a dream that you weren't 
interested in doing with him, would you be supportive in letting him go 
and do it and happily being his support at home? If the answer is yes, 
and his answer is yes, then that support and commitment to each other 
will help carry you through the tough times of no contact and missing 
each other.

Okay... I'm off THAT soap box...

Happy planning and I hope it all works out for you.
Puddles

On 1/21/13 7:13 PM, Abilene B. wrote:
> Has anyone had experience with this? My boyfriend and I have been together about 2.5 years and we love each other very much. I have invited him to come along with me on a thru-hike but he just isn't as interested in it as I am. I completely understand and don't want to push him into something he doesn't want to do. However, I am going to do this with or without him but being away from him for 5-6 months is kind of scary. How do we stay connected? What have some of you done to make this easier?
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