[pct-l] Posting names

[Ken Murray]

I understand your point.

In the community in which you LIVE, though, you would not remove everyone's name and numbers from mailboxes AS THE DEFAULT.

You could change your trail name from Dicentra to anything else, every five minutes, IF YOU WANTED TO.  It is EASY for a person to create anonymity on the trail, IF THEY WANT.

You can take personal responsibility, because, the rest of the outside world actually doesn't care about us.  Yes, it is true that even paranoid people can have enemies.  But does the ENTIRE COMMUNITY have to walk in FEAR of even mentioning a person by name to avert tragedy?

Watch, as you go through your day, how often you mention one person to another, without worrying about all this.

What many victims of stalkers don't seem to realize, is that the issue is CONTROL.  If the stalker feels that they have made a person change their life, they have won.  It is like with a cougar....running excites them, and encourages the chase.  I've known stalker victims who've gone completely underground for a decade, only to find that their stalker had died years ago.....still controlling them from the grave.......

----- Original Message -----
From: "dicentra" <dicentragirl at yahoo.com>
To: "Ken Murray" <kmurray at pol.net>
Cc: pct-l at backcountry.net
Sent: Wednesday, May 4, 2011 10:58:01 AM GMT -08:00 US/Canada Pacific
Subject: Re: [pct-l] Posting names


The problem is that anyone can walk into our little community. Sure, us hiker trash can all pretty much trust each other, but it's the rest of the world that is questionable. 
  
Saying I'm going to lunch with a friend is NOT the same as giving my location out on the trail, where I am likely to be alone with no witnesses. 

Some of us have had issues with crazy ass stalkers in the past so are cautious in both the "real world" and on the trail. It isn't paranoia. It's safety. You don't know who is reading... 

As for my "code name"? Even my non-hiker friends know who Dicentra is. 

Just sayin. HYOH. 
  
~Dicentra 


http://www.onepanwonders.com  ~ Backcountry Cooking at its Finest 
http://www.freewebs.com/dicentra 

  

--- On Wed, 5/4/11, Ken Murray <kmurray at pol.net> wrote: 



From: Ken Murray <kmurray at pol.net> 
Subject: [pct-l] Posting names 
To: "." <pct-l at backcountry.net> 
Date: Wednesday, May 4, 2011, 10:31 AM 


I personally think that this concept of anonymity and disclosure, is a carryover of our paranoia of life in civilization. 

For example, how many of us would think it neccessary to avoid mentioning names in talking about doing something with a friend OTHER THAN ON THE TRAIL? 
"I'm going to have lunch with my friend Nancy Marshall at Classy Goose on wed". 
Would I go through life asking people for permission to post their names? 

What makes this truly bizarre, is the added security of trail names...basically most people having a "code name", that no one outside of our small community is likely to know.  OFTEN gender neutral. 

If someone is REALLY worried about keeping anonymous, THEY can SAY SO, THEY can change their trail name repeatedly, THEY can not interact with people, THEY can not sign registers with recognizable names, THEY can pay only with cash, THEY can avoid trail angels, THEY can use made up names for the mail drops, etc.  THEY can take PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY for their bizarre paranoia. 

When will it occur to someone, that random pictures might catch someone's image.  Or that they did not SPECIFICALLY get permission to post an image that might be recognizable. OMG! 

Instead, lets act like rational people, and the close-knit community of caring people that we are. 

What world do YOU want to live in?  I know which I do.  Others can make other choices, they have that power. 

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